My Kid's First Tattoo

Ty's first tattoo, not finished yet.

My oldest kid got a tattoo.  

Saying that will take some time getting used to.  He's still healing actually and so am I.  It's definitely something I thought I wouldn't have to worry about for another year when he turned 18.  You know that age when your child is officially an ADULT.  I'm not gonna be dramatic and say I was mad because I actually wasn't.  I was just a little disappointed.  He's newly 17, celebrating his birthday at the end of January.  He's the oldest but still my baby and will always be.  He's still a teenager in my eyes... not able to make these types of decisions.  Or so I thought... maybe we don't give our kids enough credit because I am relieved that Ty had the foresight to get the tattoo behind his leg.  I would've died if he got a brand or name tattoo.  I guess that's what's cool with kids these days and not tribal bands or barbed wire like in my day.  I feel better telling myself that it could have been so much worse.  And he came over on his own to make sure I was okay and show me it.  He didn't hide it from us and it is artsy.

I wasn't close to my parents and couldn't tell them anything growing up.  When I was 17, all I thought about was lying to my parents because they couldn't handle the life I wanted to live.  And here is my kid at 17, sharing his life with me.  At 38 years old and four kids later, I'm definitely not the parent I thought I would be.  All parents have a vision of what's right and perfect but you gotta be willing to adjust down the line...  that's real parenting to me.
    

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Tuesday, February 18, 2014

My Kid's First Tattoo

Ty's first tattoo, not finished yet.

My oldest kid got a tattoo.  

Saying that will take some time getting used to.  He's still healing actually and so am I.  It's definitely something I thought I wouldn't have to worry about for another year when he turned 18.  You know that age when your child is officially an ADULT.  I'm not gonna be dramatic and say I was mad because I actually wasn't.  I was just a little disappointed.  He's newly 17, celebrating his birthday at the end of January.  He's the oldest but still my baby and will always be.  He's still a teenager in my eyes... not able to make these types of decisions.  Or so I thought... maybe we don't give our kids enough credit because I am relieved that Ty had the foresight to get the tattoo behind his leg.  I would've died if he got a brand or name tattoo.  I guess that's what's cool with kids these days and not tribal bands or barbed wire like in my day.  I feel better telling myself that it could have been so much worse.  And he came over on his own to make sure I was okay and show me it.  He didn't hide it from us and it is artsy.

I wasn't close to my parents and couldn't tell them anything growing up.  When I was 17, all I thought about was lying to my parents because they couldn't handle the life I wanted to live.  And here is my kid at 17, sharing his life with me.  At 38 years old and four kids later, I'm definitely not the parent I thought I would be.  All parents have a vision of what's right and perfect but you gotta be willing to adjust down the line...  that's real parenting to me.
    

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4 Comments:

At February 18, 2014 at 4:23 PM , Blogger Reverend Walter said...

Been there, done that. Of course I was almost 50 when I finally got a tattoo even though I'd planned to get it for many years. My dad, despite having 5 of them, would threaten me in no uncertain terms were I to come home with ink. At least 2 of my kids have them now. One I like and one I don't. It's not clear to me if he discussed it with you before he had it done but, hopefully, he did. I know what upset me most with my kids wasn't that they got them it's that they got them without talking with me.

 
At February 18, 2014 at 4:29 PM , Blogger Unknown said...

He got the approval from his dad so it did soften the disappointment. If he didn't get any of our permission then I'm sure all hell would've broke loose!

 
At February 18, 2014 at 7:41 PM , Blogger Jen @ SkinnedKnees.net said...

I'm not a mom so I can't totally relate to your reaction to him and the tattoo but I can definitely relate on the flip-side of it since I got my first tattoo at 18. I really like his though! It's pretty cool. :)

 
At February 19, 2014 at 3:18 PM , Blogger Unknown said...

Oh man I'm breathing deep reading this but hey its a pretty one! lol I know that doesn't change and I am am not surprised that he was able to freely tell you. If I can say one thing I admire about your boys is that they are honest. When I met the biggest he was passionate and honest and I can appreciate that from kids I am sure you are happy to be his mama and this tattoo didn't change a thing between you guys big hugs mama they are growing!

 

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